Thursday, April 05, 2007

Moving On

We all make mistakes but one has to move on. ~Jeffrey Archer
Moving on, is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard.
~Dave Mustaine

When I was younger, I never thought that being a grown up would be so difficult. It's a constant ordeal of all the decisions that have to be made, the consequences for each choice and the egg shells you walk on when people get hurt. Instead of just being responsible for your own actions alone, as a grown up you are also responsible for the action, reaction, well being and emotions of the people around you...the people that seem near and dear to your heart.

One of the hardest things in life is letting go. Letting go of the burdens and baggage that we toll around all through our lives. The most happy people are those that are truly content, the ones that have been able to release all this baggage and claim their happiness, devoid of external influences. They are happy within and this radiates outwardly to shine on everyone.

Some claim that religion helped them get rid of this baggage. Others claim spirituality, while others cast the ability on external forces like rehab, therapy and doctors. The truth of the matter is that the only person that can help with this is yourself.

Just as without the willpower to become well, all the medicines in the world can't save an individual---without your own wish to let go of baggage, all the help in the world isn't going to help you attain this. I remember saying earlier this year that one of my New Year resolutions was to cast out all the negative influences in my life. It's hard to let people go, especially when you are attached to them---especially when you love them. Especially when they are family.

But sometimes, for the sake of your own sanity, your own weakness, your own survival---you have to let each and everyone of them go. I have to let each of you go. I wish you all the happiness in the world and then some.

I'm sorry.


KM said...

Vixen said: " a grown up you are also responsible for the action, reaction, well being and emotions of the people around you..."

Responsible for other people's actions and reactions, sis? Interesting you say that because that's one of the things I've had to unlearn lately! I have learned that while I may care deeply for others' well-being, I am not in fact responsible for their behavior or responses. I'm responsible for keeping my own in check, and as far as possible minimizing drama. I'm also responsible for controlling my reflexes, and for giving others the space and autonomy to control theirs... No matter how well-intentioned others are, personal transformation is a personal responsibility. So I do think you're right when you later say "the only person that can help with this is yourself."

I hope I didn't misunderstand you. And I wish you well as you let go. :-)


Randomly Sane said...

hmmmm...gotta agree with the above post...i'm trying to unlearn the same thing - yes, to some extent i still feel as though "i'm my brothers keeper", but when it comes down to it, everyone has to take responsibility for themselves...i have enough issues by myself, i can't take on yours or anyone elses...loved one or not...

doesn't mean that i'm some unfeeling b...just that i'm learning to let people be and live my life as stress free as possible!